Being able to live in your skin is one of the greatest things we can do as human beings. 

For disabled people, sex and sex education remains a taboo subject. The team at To Be Frank, are working to change that.

At To Be Frank we believe that everyone, regardless of their abilities, has the right to explore and express their gender and sexuality, have healthy, respectful and safe relationships, learn lessons from life’s experience and control decisions which affect their sexual health and relationships. 

We strive to improve access to sexual health and healthy relationships for disabled people by offering them support, advice, and education, in a safe and comfortable environment. 

We also help to empower and build knowledge, confidence and capacity in support agencies, professionals, support workers, whanau and allies so that they can appropriately support the sexual needs of disabled people. 

Education = Facilitating Learning

Information is power – it’s we to talk, draw, show pictures, sign, paint, act out or do whatever it takes to give people the key information they have a right to know in ways they can understand.

To enjoy sexuality, everyone needs adequate, clear information and tailored support.

Our education sessions provide a safe space to ask vulnerable questions in a relaxed, non-judgmental setting. 

We design tailored education sessions for disabled people and involve their chosen support people, whanau or allies. Sessions with our facilitators can either be one on one, as a couple or in a group.

Our conversations can be as explicit as you like and we won’t shy away from any topics you want to discuss. 

We offer custom designed sessions for support agencies, professionals and support workers, as well as our initial broad human rights + supporting relationships & sexuality workshops.

We also offer Walk and Talk sessions with one of Claire’s three horses, three donkeys and two ponies - It’s amazing how the horses can help facilitate conversation!

Workshops & Professional Development

To understand and enjoy sexuality, everyone needs adequate advice, information and support.

Through our workshops we help to empower and build confidence, knowledge and capacity in support agencies, professionals, support workers, whanau and allies

We offer a range of workshops that are specifically aimed at different sectors, so they have the information they need to answer questions about sexuality and appropriately support the sexuality & relationship goals and needs of disabled people. 

Our workshops cover topics such as sexuality, intimate care, policy & practice, and accessing the sex industry.

We also run specific workshops for the family/whānau of people with disabilities and also safer relationships workshops for disabled people.

Speaking Opportunities

Disabled people and tāngata whaikaha Māori have the right to explore and express their gender & sexuality, and to have relationships based on consent and respect like everybody else.

Firm believers that information is power, To Be Franksters: Claire & Carolyn, are passionate about spreading the message that all people have the right to explore and express their gender and sexuality.

We believe in the importance of self-determination and mana enhancing approaches to this mahi.

We believe that tāngata whaikaha Māori and disabled people are no exception to this right and we will walk alongside whānau on this journey.